In today’s fast-paced world, we often find ourselves juggling multiple roles and responsibilities. From being a partner, parent, employee, entrepreneur, friend, sibling, neighbor, and more, the list seems never-ending. But amidst all these roles, it is important to ask ourselves – are we truly showing up as our authentic selves? Or are we hiding behind masks, afraid of not being accepted or belonging? If you resonate with these questions, know that you are not alone.
The Fear of Not Being Accepted:
One of the primary reasons why we hide our authentic selves is fear. We fear that if we show our true selves, we may not be accepted by others. This fear stems from a deep desire to belong and be liked by those around us. The state of belonging is a natural state we as humans need! We worry that if people see our flaws, quirks, or vulnerabilities, they may judge us or reject us. As a result, we put on different personas depending on the situation, wearing different hats to fit in and please others.
The Consequences of Hiding:
While it may seem easier to hide behind these masks, there are significant consequences to not embracing our authentic selves. Soon, these masks become our patterns, the way we show up in the world all the time! This will lead to a lack of fulfillment and inner peace. When we constantly pretend to be someone we’re not, we lose touch with our true desires, passions, and values. We become disconnected from our own needs and aspirations, leading to a sense of emptiness and dissatisfaction. This can show up in our lives in many ways – depression and anxiety are the 2 most common.
Moreover, hiding our authentic selves can strain our relationships. When we present a false version of ourselves, we create a barrier between us and others. True connections are built on trust, vulnerability, and authenticity. By hiding who we truly are, we prevent ourselves from forming genuine and meaningful connections with others.
Discovering Your Authentic Self:
If you’re unsure about your authentic self, don’t worry…I’ve got you! Self-discovery is a lifelong journey, and you don’t have to do it alone. Here are a few steps to help you begin or renew your self discovery:
- Reflection – begin to journal
- Embrace Vulnerability – share how you are feeling with a trusted friend/family member
- Let Go of Expectations – nothing has to change overnight!
- Practice Self-Compassion – choose to be easy with yourself
Conclusion:
Hiding our authentic selves may seem like a protective mechanism, but it ultimately hinders our personal growth and fulfillment. Embracing our true selves allows us to live a life aligned with our values, passions, and desires. It enables us to form genuine connections and experience a sense of belonging. So, take off those masks, embrace vulnerability, and let your authentic self shine through. You deserve to live a life that is true to who you are.
If you’d like some support to get yourself started or all the way through your journey reach out to me and we can connect. I help people every day become who they truly desire to be and live the life they are meant to live! janicegrodskycoaching@gmail.com